I am the son of a single mother. So I want to address this situation. She never graduated from eight grade. Had four boys, worked as a waitress and had a husband that left her after the last boy was borne and was an alcoholic and died at fifty-two because of his heavy drinking. I never met nor knew my “birth father”.
I was put in a Catholic adoption center and my “real mom and dad”, Genevieve, and, Robert, adopted me at age three. My father was a World War Two veteran, electrician and owned several businesses. My mother was a stay at home mom. They both provided for me a “new life of opportunity” and have now passed on.
Roland Warren, father of two sons and board member of National Fatherhood Initiative. Four things every son needs to know:
Does my son know that he matters to me?
Does my son know that I love him?
Does my son know what he does is important to me?
Does my son know how proud I am of him?
Psychologotoday.com, Fathers and sons,
Father the Provider and Success. “His family should understand that their claims on is time came second best as he had gone to conquer the world”. “May grow up with the idea that a father's life is his work, and his family should not expect anything more from him”.
“Life for most boys and for many grown men then is a frustrating search for the lost father who has not yet offered protection, provision, nurturing, modeling, or, especially, anointment”.
The myths of masculinity.
“The old fear of the too-powerful father and the new longing for a father to love and teach and anoint us”.
Men feared being like their fathers.
Father the Nurturer
“Fathering makes a man--whatever his standing in the eyes of the world-feel strong and good and important, just as he makes his child feel loved and valued.”
Psychologotoday.com,Boys without Fathers:
1. Fatherless boys inevitably suffer delinquent tendencies
2. Fatherless boys suffer from anger issues or depression
3. Fatherless men don’t know how to be good fathers